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Anal Sex Tips for More Pleasure
Many women and couples are not
aware that anal sex
can be
one of the
most intense, fulfilling sexual experiences we can possibly have and
that
it has the ability to enhance orgasms by magnificent
amounts.
The anus has a lot of sensitive nerve endings, which can be very
pleasurable
when stimulated. There is an outdated taboo in our culture
that would like to make us believe that anal sex is dirty, bad or even
sinful. So even if we do enjoy it or would like to try it
we may
be reluctant. Try to see this view for what it is and allow
yourself
to experience the exquisite sensual delights these anal sex tips can
help you discover.
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Some people think anal sex will be
painful, but once
they
learn the
art they will find that this is not true. If you are
new at this it may take a little time to learn how to do it
properly. Use these anal sex tips to shorten your learning curve
and
become an anal sex lover in no time at all.
It may hurt initially, but if she learns to breathe deeply and relax
into
the experience she will find that you can enter her with ease.
Once
the head is inside and the anus begins to expand the pain will cease
and
be replaced with ecstasy. By breathing deeply and by using lots
of
lubrication the pain will be eliminated.
Anal
Sex Tip to Help You Relax
Take a
deep complete
breath in
through your
nose. Breathe in from your abdomen, not your chest. Your
abdomen
(not your chest) should distend on inhale not exhale as we have
inaccurately
be taught to breathe. Then breathe out through the nose
completely
until all air is expelled. When breathing out, in your minds eye
direct your breath at your anus and imagine it is flowing into in and
relaxing
it. If you can’t imagine this very well, by just doing the
breathing
you should be able to relax it as well. Do this several times.
Anal Sex Toys
There are a variety of
anal
sex toys to assist you in your anal adventures. Butt plugs
are a very popular choice, and so are anal beads, anal dildos and anal
vibrators. Each of these come in a variety of choices, such as
soft, hard or vibrating and can help make your anal play more exciting
and enjoyable.
Hygiene
Some people are afraid it may be
messy. There
are ways
to prevent
this. Have a bowel movement prior to anal sex or do a plain water
enema. The rectum is where the penis will be going and both
of these methods will cleanse the area. Of course there may be
some
times when small traces of material may be present, but there are times
when this can’t be avoided. This is natural and nothing to be
ashamed
of.
Keep in mind that before any anal
play or anal sex
the area
should be
washed thoroughly. If penetration of the tongue, fingers, toys or
penis occur in the anus, they should be washed again before inserting
in
the vagina. Bacteria in the anal area will cause infection in the
vagina. A great way to prepare for anal play is to take a
shower
together or wash each other. This can be a great way to set the
mood
and can be an exciting form of foreplay.
If you are new to anal sex , a
great way to get
started is
to do it
in the shower. Soap each other up good and the water and the soap will
give you lots of lubrication that will allow penetration with great
ease.
It can also be a lot of fun and arousing soaping each other up.
You
can caress, rub, stroke and probe while doing it. Then bend her
over
and slide on in. Hold onto the rails for balance as once
you
get going you may fall down. Of course the shower technique
is also very exciting for the anal sex connoisseur.
Anal Sex Play
Anal sex does not have to contain
full
penetration.
Anal play
can be very fulfilling and pleasurable as well. Rubbing the anus
while giving oral sex for both males and females is extremely
pleasurable.
Probing one finger inside the anus while giving oral or while climaxing
for both males and females can be delightful and also intensify the
orgasm.
Licking the anus while stroking your lovers penis or him licking your
anus
while massaging your clitoris and thrusting inside of you with his
fingers
is very satisfying.
If you are without a partner, anal
play or anal sex
can be a
very exciting
way to satisfy yourself. It can add great variety to your
masturbation
techniques. When masturbating whether male or female you can use
one hand to stimulate your anus and the other hand to stroke or
rub.
You can use a vibrator on or in your anus while thrusting inside vagina
and stimulating your clitoris and give yourself the simultaneous
clitoral,
G-spot orgasm. Masturbating anally can be a great way to start
your
anal exploration if you are shy to try it with your partner.
Anal Sex Positions
There are a variety of positions
you can try
anally.
Side by side,
doggy, bent over a chair, woman on top facing you or facing away from
can
be very exciting. Experiment and find out what feels best for you
and your partner. You can try using toys such as dildo or
vibrator
and stimulate her clitoris and penetrate vaginally while inside her
anus.
Anal penetration also allows for direct stimulation of the
G-spot.
Having an orgasm with double penetration and stimulation of the
clitoris
produces orgasms that are out of this world. The anus
contracts
during orgasm like the vagina. If the anus is being penetrated during
climax
it can increase the intensity of orgasm to new levels never experienced
before.
Communication is always an
important component of
great sex
and this
really applies in anal sex. Prior to trying out any of these anal
sex tips you should talk
about
what you are going to do and discuss any feelings you have about
it.
If it is painful you need to be free to discuss this and try different
techniques or positions. You need to be able to talk about what
is
working
and what isn’t here. As always be adventurous and creative and
find
what works for you.
Use
This Series of Anal Sex Tips to Elicit Mind-Blowing Orgasms
First of all shower with your
lover and wash each
other
using your hands
as the wash -rag. You can set the mood with lights and music if
you
desire. Then carry her to the bedroom.
Look deep in your lover’s eyes as
you kiss her
passionately
and run
your hands across her shoulders and down her arms. Express your
feelings
for her. Tell her how much you desire her. Tell her you
love
her or care for her. Tell her how beautiful she is.
Caress her arms and embrace your
hands in
hers.
Kiss her shoulders. Kiss the nape
of her neck.
Make
love to her
breasts with your mouth for a few moments with tender, passionate
licking,
kissing and sucking.
Have her bend on the bed on her
hands and
knees. Kiss
her shoulders
and back. Slowly make your way down to the buttocks. Caress
her butt cheeks tenderly while planting soft kisses across them and
down
her thighs. Slide underneath her and kiss and lick the inner
thighs
and then lick and kiss her clitoris and between her lips. Sliding
through her lips and probing within her before landing intensely on her
clit. While probing in an upward motion with your tongue on her
clitoris
slide your fingers inside of her and rub her G-spot (it is the soft
spongy
ridge about one inch inside the pussy behind the tail bone.)
Bring yourself behind her again
and kiss the thighs
and
buttocks again
then slide your tongue between her anus and lick her fervently as you
slide
one hand between her legs. Insert your finger or fingers inside
her
vagina while rubbing the clitoris with another finger and continue to
lick
her anus. Make the anus sloppy wet with saliva and then rub
the head of your penis around the entrance. If you are new at this you
should also use some kind of lubrication.
As you become more
accomplished
at this you will find that the saliva can work just as well and is less
disruptive to the process. Although some people find it necessary to
use
lubrication at all times. Hold onto her hips and enter the head
of
your penis slowly into her anus. At all times she should have
control
of the depth of insertion and the pace of the rhythm. Pace
should be slow and easy until the anus opens and relaxes. Teach
your
woman to breathe deeply and relax into the experience and you will
enter
with ease.
Have her lean forward on her hands
so that she is
rubbing
her own clit.
Lean your abdomen and chest against her back and kiss and bite her neck
passionately as you begin to thrust deeper into her anus.
Entice your woman to bring herself
to orgasm rubbing
her
clit while
you continue thrusting in her anus and telling her how good her butt
feels,
how much you want her, what your penis looks like going in and out of
her
butt or whatever you are feeling at the moment. Not only will
this
be complete euphoria for your woman it will be just as euphoric for the
male as well. As you see how excited she is becoming and
the
feel of her anus around your shaft you will both be experiencing mind
blowing
orgasms. What is great about this position is that you can come
together.
Once she begins to approach orgasm you can thrust as needed to come
with
her or she can bring herself to the point of orgasm and wait for you to
come with her.
There are also a lot of variations
on this
technique
that can make it even more exciting and fulfilling for her and yourself
as well. You can increase intensity by inserting a dildo or
vibrator
inside her vagina while your shaft is in her butt and she rubs her
clitoris.
Double penetration with clitoral stimulation creates earth-shaking
orgasms.
With the vibrator inside of her you can also feel the vibration through
the walls of the vagina on your penis and this can also be very
arousing
for you as well. It could also be done with vibrator in the anus
and your penis in her pussy and stimulation of the clitoris with hers
or
your fingers. You can try a variety of positions to find what
works
best for you.
After the orgasm be sure to remain
present with your
woman,
hold her,
cuddle and be close. Afterplay is necessary to complete the sex
act
for a woman and will make her desire you more the next time.
If your woman thinks she does not
like anal sex, and
you use the anal sex tips above you will soon have her eager and
willing to offer you her
butt.
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