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Erotic Communication
Most of us know that
communication is essential to great sex, but our words can also be used
as a powerful aphrodisiac. Erotic communication enhances our
sexual
pleasure, connects us more deeply with our lover and increases our
passion.
Erotic communication is not something that we should do just during the
act of lovemaking; it is something we want to incorporate into part of
our daily routine. The right erotic words at the right time can
build
a burning inferno, make your lover weak and breathless and enhance your
orgasms immensely.
We can begin with
little sensual, loving, erotic statements throughout the day where we
tell
our lover things such as:
“You felt wonderful last night.”
“You have a gorgeous ass.”
“I love your body.”
“You’re really important to me.”
“You are so sexy and make me so excited.”
“You’re lips taste so good.”
“You feel so good in my arms.”
By
communicating with
our lover in this way on a regular and frequent basis, we keep the flow
of passion going and increase our intimacy.
To build that level of
passion
to a higher level we can call our lover at work and tell them either in
person or on their voice mail:
“Hey baby, tonight when you get home I can’t wait to run my tongue
up and down the length of your shaft. I’m thinking about
you.
See you tonight.”
Or “Hello sweetheart just wanted to let you know I’m not wearing any
panties and my pussy is so hot and wet. See you tonight.”
Or as your
lover is
on the way out the door kiss them and tell them what delicious things
you
will be doing to their body when you see them again.
By planting
these little
erotic messages in their head it stays with them when they are away and
they fantasize about it and then desires and passion mount and when you
are together again it enhances your sexual experience together.
As we
approach the
act of lovemaking and during the act there are numerous words we can
use
to increase excitement, express our feelings and enhance our
pleasure.
We can tell our lover how much we want them, how attractive they are
and
how much we enjoy them. Phrases such as these can be very
effective:
“You feel so good.”
“You feel so fucking good.”
“It turns me on when you lick me like that.”
“I want you so bad.”
“I want your cock inside me now.”
“I love you.”
“You’re a fantastic lover.”
Let your
lover know
how much you enjoy his penis or her vagina and how great it is.
“Oh baby, your cock feels so good.”
“Oh sweetheart your pussy is so beautiful.”
Whatever it is you are feeling, tell them. It will drive them
wild.
We can also use
erotic communication
to guide our lover to satisfy us more fully. To let them know
what
we want, what we like and what feels good, try some phrases like
these:
“Oh honey, that feels so good when you lick my nipples, but it would
feel
even better if you did it like this,” and then show them what you
want.
Or, “That really feels great baby, but I would really love it if you
would
move your hand a little faster or slower,” whatever the case may
be.
“Oh that feels fantastic, but can you touch me here” and guide your
lover’s
hand where you need to be touched.
After sex
we can use
erotic words to complete the act, to leave each other satisfied and to
enhance intimacy and closeness.
“That was great sweetheart, I particularly liked it when you did
…..”
“Oh, sweetheart you are such a fantastic lover.”
“Oh I love to make love with you or I love to fuck you,” whatever
you’re
in the mood for.
We can also
use erotic
moans, groans, ooohs, ahs, and yes’s. These can be just as
arousing
as words themselves. They will give cues to your lover as to what
you are enjoying. It is likewise a big turn on for your man to
hear
you make moans of pleasure when giving him oral. He loves to hear
how much you enjoy him.
An
important factor
in erotic communication is for each partner to know what words turn
them
on and to communicate this to the other. There are different
styles
of language for different people and what is erotic and stimulating for
one can be a turn off for another. One person may want to hear
this:
“I want to make love with you” and another person may want to hear “I
want
to fuck you,” or another person may want to hear “I want you so
bad.”
Or the same person may want to hear all these different statements
depending
on what they are in the mood for at that particular time.
Sometimes
we want to make love and other times we want to fuck.
So it is
very important
to know and respect your lover’s style and to let your lover know
yours.
Tell your lover what you want and ask them what they want to
hear.
Tell your lover to tell you: “ Oh baby your pussy tastes so good” or “I
love your pussy.” If a particular word is offensive to you then inform
your lover of that. For instance, I am offended by the word
“cunt,”
it is a total turn off for me. If that word or any other word is
offensive to you, then you need to let your lover know or it will
interrupt
your eroticism. If your lover enjoys words that are not erotic
for
you, then you should discuss this outside the bedroom and find mutually
arousing words or you could agree on taking turns on saying what the
other
one wants to hear.
If this is
a new behavior
for you, it may feel awkward at first, but with practice you will
become
more comfortable. You can try saying these words and statements
when
you are alone, out loud, to begin the process. Sometimes we may
have
negative associations with certain words and it may take some time to
associate
the words with something positive.
Learn to
caress your
lover with words and the passion and desire between you will be
blazing.
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