Fellatio Techniques to Rock His World
By Great Sex Coach Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed.
The enlightened woman aspires to becoming the best she can be in fellatio techniques because she is keenly aware that there is incredible power in this skill for not only the satisfaction she gives him, but the benefits it will bring her in their relationship as well.
Oral sex is extremely important to a man because his identity is strongly associated with his penis. When a man who enjoys and desires fellatio is deprived of this need he is likely to feel rejected, resentful and dissatisfied. This does not make for a harmonious relationship. It's not uncommon at all for men who don't receive oral at home to find it in other places and his partner never knows about it. For the man who truly loves his wife and can't live with the guilt of infidelity he often turns to phone sex as an alternative. The raw truth in this matter is that if oral sex is a high priority for a man, he is quite likely to get it one way or another.
If he does live without it, he carries a great deal of resentment and unhappiness. His sex life is not fulfilling. He doesn't feel as close to his partner as he desires. He doesn't feel loved and accepted on the deepest level. He feels deprived. The relationship suffers because this puts a rift between partners and doesn't allow them to rise to the heights that are possible.
Developing and enjoying fellatio techniques gives her power as a lover, a woman and a life partner. The power to give him ultimate sexual pleasure, the power to increase intimacy and enhance all aspects of the relationship, and the power to discourage infidelity.
Providing fellatio to her man is one of the finest ways for her to express her love for him and prevent wandering eyes. He will find her overwhelmingly alluring and desirable.
When it comes to pleasing your man, all techniques are incomparable to fellatio techniques. It is prime, first-rate, second to none.
Some women are not real wild about developing fellatio techniques. If you are one of them, it would be to your benefit to seek out a professional to discuss this with. There's usually an underlying reason, that if found, may be overcome. Many women internalize the negative cultural and religious messages that still float around. They may on an unconscious level feel that fellatio is disgusting or dirty. A past sexual experience that was negative may leave them feeling used or disrespected when engaging in oral sex. Inaccurate messages they received growing up may be internalized. They may feel that fellatio is something that only "bad girls" do. It's possible that you can undo this kind of conditioning by working it out with a professional and learn to appreciate oral sex.
Fellatio Techniques for the Reluctant
If you're reluctant to partake in fellatio or find it less than enjoyable, try a few of these preliminary fellatio techniques:
- While you're giving him fellatio, think about how much you love him and how important he is to you. Try to think of his penis as an extension of who he is. Express your love and adoration for him by aiming your attention on gratifying his penis.
- If you find fellatio distasteful, try brushing your teeth directly before engaging so that the fresh minty taste will linger in your mouth. Alternatively, you can drink something tasteful like tea or suck on a breath mint while performing. You can also coat the penis with something that is delightful to your taste buds.
- If you dislike the feel or taste of semen you can try keeping the breath mint in your mouth during and after ejaculation or keep one of your favorite beverages on hand to drink immediately afterwards.
(Sidebar) Men, you can help your reluctant woman become a more willing participant by making sure that you express respect and appreciation for her loving act. Give her assurance before, during and after oral sex. Be sure your manhood area is fresh and clean. The same applies for all women, but for the unenthusiastic fellatioist a little extra effort may be called for. You can encourage your woman to be more interested in fellatio techniques with the right attitude.
Two of His Most Favorite Fellatio Techniques Approaches:
- Invite your lover to lie on his back and lift himself up on a pillow to watch you slip between his legs and satisfy him. Don't worry about what you look like or how you're performing. He will be so turned on he won't see anything but the sexiness.
- Drop to your knees on the floor for your man while he stands above you with his penis hanging in your face.
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- Look him directly in the eye while licking up and down that beautiful jewel of his and you'll drive him absolutely crazy.
- Remember that the most sensitive areas of the penis are on the coronal ridge, which is along the edges of the head and the frenulum, which is the point where the shaft meets the head on the underside of the penis. Pay lots of attention to these areas with the tip of your tongue.
- Don't forget the testicles, but be gentle. Kiss, lick and pull them in your mouth and suck them. Stroke his penis while tending to the testicles.
- Run the tip of your tongue up and down the length of his shaft. Lick every inch of it. Then spread your tongue out wide like your going to lick a lollipop and lick up and down the shaft.
- Spread the tongue out wide and lick across the top of the head. Kiss the head. Wrap your lips around it and caress it with your mouth while stroking the shaft.
- Flick your tongue in his little slit. Delight in the drops of pre-ejaculate.
- Lick the underside of the penis from the testicles up to the tip of the head.
- Let him know how much you enjoy his precious manhood while pleasuring him with groans of delight. Tell him how good he tastes and how wonderful he feels in your mouth. Stroke his ego as well as his penis.
- The most exciting fellatio techniques involve providing him a variety of sensations by using your hands, tongue and lips. Go back and forth between your hand and your mouth. While your hand is one spot put your lips in another. Stroke him with a good tight grip while you caress his head with your mouth.
- Wrap your lips around the head and slide your mouth down to the base. Consume him completely. If you feel you may gag, then pull back up and caress the head and then go back down to the base again.
- Squeeze the base of the penis with your fingers while sucking, but be careful if he's in your throat because this action will make the head expand.
- Pull, suck and tug with tight suction from the base out to the tip of the head. Then back down again.
- For a little variety let him grab a hold of your hair, pull your head back and thrust himself in and out of your lips. Look up in his eyes as he does this.
- For another piece of variety let him hold your head in his hands as he pumps your mouth.
(Sidebar) Because of a mans natural instinct to thrust he may get carried away with the last two fellatio techniques, so be sure to let him know when it becomes too uncomfortable and he should also be aware that your mouth will not be able to sustain this movement for too long. You may want to reserve this technique for short durations or special occasions.
- Lick his perineum (the area leading from the testicles up the anus) while stroking him or rub the perineum while sucking him.
- Wet one of your fingers with your mouth and caress his anus. If he responds positively to this, then slip the finger inside his anus while you suck his penis.
- When he's ready to ejaculate suck him till he's dry as a bone. Don't miss a drop.
(Sidebar) It's very important for the woman to know that it is a real turn off and an insult for the man if she acts repulsed by his semen. This attitude kills his passion and makes him feel rejected and resentful. The best fellatio techniques involve swallowing his masculine nectar. If you don't like to swallow, at least don't act repulsed by his semen. Delight in his semen on other areas of your body, such as on your breasts or abdomen. Make an attempt to swallow at least some of the time.
- After he orgasms continue to caress, lick and suck gently with your mouth. Some men may find this experience too intense as they may be very sensitive afterwards, but for others it is a very pleasurable. Make sure you either ask your lover if it feels good or pay attention to how they respond.
- Give him spontaneous unexpected fellatio surprises. Nothing will make your man happier than surprising him with some spectacular oral delights in the car, the hallway, at work, as a wake up call in the morning, in the bathroom, in the kitchen or any place you can think of.
Be sure to be aware of your lover's body language and sounds as you pleasure them and read their cues. Make adjustments in your speed, pressure and rhythm accordingly. Encourage your lover to let you know what feels good and what they want. Sharpening and fine tuning your fellatio techniques will keep your man satisfied, faithful, devoted and captivated by you.