Give a Female an Orgasm
By Great Sex Coach Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed.
The first thing a man wants to be aware of when learning how to give a female an orgasm, is that climaxing is a very different process for the woman than it is for the man.
Women like you to take your time and enjoy the scenery on the ride. It takes them a lot longer to get to the finish line than it does you and a lot of their pleasure is derived from aspects in the relationship that have nothing to do with sex.
A lot of women lose their desire for sex or experience low libido because they are not satisfied during their sexual encounters. Partly this is due to the fact that most men don't know what it is that a woman really needs and many women do not understand their own bodies or know what they need sexually to be satisfied. Sometimes she may know what she needs but she is afraid to verbalize it.
So you should take it upon yourself to learn and help open her eyes. A man who knows what he's doing in the bedroom and takes charge is very sexy and exciting. It will help her feel more confident and relaxed to know she is in good hands, which is also important for her orgasm.
For sex to be at it's best, the woman needs to feel emotionally connected to her partner. Sex is much more than a physical experience that takes place at a particular time. The relationship as a whole and how you interact on a daily basis will impact her ability to and quality of her orgasm. She wants to feel important, special, valued, desired and listened to.
She needs intimacy and at least 15 minutes of foreplay. To give a female an orgasm you should take your time and savor the experience. Kiss her, caress her, hold her, tell her how much she means to you.
Arousal simply doesn't happen for the woman if these aspects are not in place and if arousal doesn't happen, then orgasm will not either.
Now, once you have mastered these basics it's time to get down to business and the best way to get down to business with your woman is through cunnilingus.
The most effective and pleasurable way to give a female an orgasm is through cunnilingus. Most women cannot orgasm through intercourse because it doesn't provide adequate stimulation to their clitoris. The clitoris is the secret pathway to pleasure in the woman.
Many men think they need a big penis and the ability to thrust like an Olympic gold medalist, but that is not the case. If you can learn how to give your woman earth shaking cunnilingus, you will be viewed as an incredible and irresistible lover.
Yes, a woman does enjoy intercourse and with proper stimulation and positions like woman on top or riding high some women can achieve orgasm with intercourse, but for most women, the most satisfying and intense orgasms are those that are achieved through oral sex. For many women, it is the only way they can achieve climax.
To learn how to give great cunnilingus you must fully understand the woman's body and how to approach it. Don't be one of those men who thinks he's a great lover because he's doing what he saw in a porn movie. Porn movies do not teach you how to make a woman orgasm. What you see in porn movies is not realistic. It is fantasy and designed to arouse the man, not the woman.
You should learn your cunnilingus skills from a reliable source and one of the best places you can turn to is this great book, Lick by Lick: How to Go Down on a Woman and Have Her Begging for More. This hot little guide covers all the bases. It teaches you the basics of her anatomy, tips, techniques, what she really wants and everything you need to become an amazing oral lover.
When you learn how to give a female an orgasm through cunnilingus, you are developing skills that not only provide your woman with the most pleasurable sexual experience, but it also helps you become a more sensitive and competent lover and enhances your relationship on every level.
A woman who is satisfied by her partner feels more desire to pleasure him and it deepens her connection with him. If he cares enough about her to know what she needs and provide it, then he is valued, appreciated and desired more, both in and outside the bedroom.
Aside from that, what man doesn't want to be viewed as the best lover in the world? And that is exactly how men who can provide mind blowing cunnilingus are perceived.