How to Perform Cunnilingus Like a Pro
By Great Sex Coach Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed.
Yes, I know that most men think they already know how to perform cunnilingus like a pro, but unfortunately a lot of times that is just not the case. I'm sorry to burst your bubble, but according to many of the women I work with in my practice, many men engage in oral sex techniques that just aren't very satisfying for the woman. What, you say, but my girlfriend or wife has never said anything. How can this be true?
Now, don't feel bad, we're not pointing the finger or blaming you. You probably learned what you think are great techniques by watching a cheap porn flick, which are notorious for presenting information that is not realistic, especially when it comes to women's needs or you're doing what you think is pleasurable. Additionally, a lot of times the woman has never spoke up and been honest with her lover about her level of satisfaction because she's embarrassed, too shy, afraid or she doesn't know herself exactly what it is she needs to have a better experience.
Yes, many women suffer in silence and never say a word until they can't stand it anymore and end up at the other end of the telephone with me. Unfortunately this is detrimental to the relationship in more ways than one. Not only does it mean she endures a sex life that is not very satisfying, but she begins to lose interest in sex as well, which means your relationship overall suffers in quality and depth.
On the other hand, maybe she has tried to tell you, but you just haven't heard her or you dismissed her complaints because they threatened your ego or masculinity, which is a complaint I hear from women quite frequently as well. Perhaps some of you don't understand that it's crucial that you know how to perform cunnilingus like a pro because it is often the woman's preferred and most supreme method of reaching orgasm.
It's important to keep in mind that just because your woman tells you things aren't working as you thought or attempts to give you suggestions does not mean you're a terrible or inadequate lover. She is responsible for knowing what her needs are and communicating them to you. If she doesn't do that, then there's no way you could know otherwise. Listening to your partners guidance is one of the best ways to become a great lover.
The two most common complaints that women have are that "he doesn't take time to arouse me in other ways before slipping between my legs" and "he doesn't know how to handle my clitoris."
2 Most Important Tips For How to Perform Cunnilingus like a Pro
- Focus on her needs not yours.
Men lean towards pleasuring their woman in a fashion that is pleasurable for them. They think that because they love it when their woman goes straight for the penis and focuses all her attention there, that this is what she wants as well. That is not usually the case. The woman likes the long meandering road with lots of stops at the rest areas.
Don't engage in play that is only focused on what you enjoy. Make sure she enjoys it as well. You may love the way her clit hops around when you do a particular technique, but does she? When you hear from the excitement in her breath or voice that you're doing something right or wrong follow her cues.
Men sometimes get fixated on the clitoris or a particular pattern of stimulation. Make sure you spread that affection around to the thighs, buttocks, labia, legs, etc. Use your hands on other areas of the body while your lips and tongue are busy elsewhere. - Educate yourself.
Get yourself some sex education videos and books. The best way to learn how to perform cunnilingus is with adequate instruction from a reliable source.
Learn the woman's anatomy and needs from an expert not a porn flick. Don't fumble around down there in the dark. Get to know exactly where things are and how they work. The more knowledgeable you are about the mechanics of the woman the more you can develop your skills.
The woman's sexual response system works a little differently than the mans and it's crucial that both partners understand this and know how to work together to maximize pleasure instead of inhibiting it.
If your woman seems a little embarrassed or backwards about expressing her sexual needs to you, then invite her to look at the videos and books with you. Encourage her to become knowledgeable about her own body. This is not only a great way to learn together, but will also spark desire and arousal.
The woman is a complex creature and the enlightened lover has done his homework so that he understands all her special needs and desires, perhaps even better than she does, and excels in fulfilling them.
By learning how to perform cunnilingus like a pro you learn not only how to give your woman exquisite sexual pleasure, but you make her feel special, desired and important, which will only increase her sexual desires even more. You'll be viewed as a skilled and sensitive lover in her eyes and solidify your emotional and physical connections to one another even more.
Intense sexual pleasure bonds lovers together on many levels and deepens intimacy. When you're able to learn how to perform cunnilingus like a pro you enrich and strengthen not only your sexual relationship, but your whole relationship as well.
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