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5 Sex
Myths Destructive to
Your Relationship
In this era where sex seems to be on the mind of everyone
and talked
about more openly than ever before, it is surprising that there
continues
to be a lot of misinformation and misconceptions. These sex myths
perpetuate unhealthy patterns of relating, expectations and
satisfaction
and have the potential to destroy a relationship.
A great book that can dispel all the sexual myth and mystery
that may impact your relationship and help you understand the sexual
needs of men and women more completely is
The Lovemaking Smorgasbord - A
Couple's Menu for Feeding Passion & Fidelity.
Don’t allow your relationship to be prey to the following
myths:
Sex Myths 1
A Good Relationship Shouldn’t Have Any Sex Problems
All couples will probably experience some sexual problems at
some point.
This does not mean your relationship is over or not a good one. If the
problems are not addressed and worked out, then your relationship could
be in jeopardy, but the mere existence of problems is not a sign of
failure,
it’s a normal part of relationships. Your partner’s sexual needs may
change
over time. Stress and major life changes are an inevitable part of
everyone’s
life. These kinds of issues can cause change in levels of desire,
satisfaction
etc. and will require periods of adjustment.
Sex Myths 2
Size Matters
This simply is not true. In an attempt to make money, the
media continues
to keep this destructive myth alive, making men feel inadequate and
self-conscious.
They set up expectations that are impossible for a man to live up to
and
make them falsely believe that this is what a woman wants. This
is
absurd. You do not need a big penis to be an incredible lover and
satisfy your woman. Only the first third of a woman’s vagina has nerve
endings for feeling, the other two thirds has no feeling, so even a
small
penis is quite capable of stimulating the first third. What are most
important
to a woman is what kind of lover you are, what kind of person you are,
how you feel about her and how you treat her. Making your woman feel
loved,
special, cherished, appreciated and desired will make sex great for
her.
Sex Myths 3
A Woman Should Orgasm with Intercourse Alone
The majority of women cannot orgasm with intercourse alone,
regardless
of how big the penis is, because it does not provide sufficient
stimulation
to the clitoris. Many couples struggle needlessly, believing that
one of them is doing something wrong if they are not able to achieve
this.
Using positions that stimulate the clitoris during intercourse may work
for some, such as the woman on top or the riding high missionary. You
can
also stimulate the clitoris with a finger or a vibrator during
intercourse
or give your woman her satisfaction by pleasuring her orally or
manually.
Sex Myths 4
My Partner Should Know How to Pleasure Me Without My Telling
Them
Your partner is not a mind reader. Lack of communication is
one of the
biggest factors in sexual dissatisfaction. Yes, most people know the
basics,
but everyone has unique sexual needs that only they are aware of.
You must teach your partner what it is that you need. Don’t be
shy!
Be specific and detailed.
Sex Myths 5
It Shouldn’t Take Work to Keep Passion Alive
Yes, we would all love to live in the land of fairy tales,
but unfortunately
it just does not exist! Once again the media is largely responsible for
promoting an ideal that just isn’t realistic. Relationships go through
cycles and levels of passion will vacillate. In the early stages of
love
passion is a blazing inferno that can’t be put out and doesn’t require
any work, but as the relationship progresses, passion will not stay
alive
without effort. You must nurture your relationship to keep passion
alive.
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