Keep Your Relationship Fresh with Quickies
By Great Sex Coach Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed.
Quickies are a great way to keep excitement and spontaneity in your relationship. Some women tend to dislike quickies because it makes them feel neglected or not fully satisfied, and these are valid feelings if you have nothing but quickies in your relationship. But if you use the quicky sporadically and recognize all the many benefits it can offer, you can find a new appreciation for it.
The quicky should only be used intermittently. Be sure to keep balance in your relationship. Quickies should be mixed in with lots of long sensuous lovemaking sessions as well as some mind blowing, raw and carnal sex.
Most women take a while to reach orgasm so with a quicky she may not be able to achieve orgasm, but that doesn't mean it can't be pleasurable. Lovemaking doesn't always have to end with an orgasm. The sexual energy, sense of adventure, emotional closeness and other pleasurable physical sensations can be enjoyed just as well.
However, if you'd like to increase the chance you can orgasm with a quicky there are a few things you can do. If you're the one initiating a quicky you can arouse yourself by caressing your body, running your fingers briefly across your pelvis area or inner thighs or caressing your breasts. You can prepare by planning the quicky ahead of time and then masturbating without bringing yourself to climax. Get yourself right to the brink and then stop. Then approach your lover with a quicky.
If your lover has approached you unexpectedly with a quicky this approach won't work, and so for that session you may not be able to achieve orgasm, but allow yourself to experience and fully enjoy the excitement and other sensual sensations you may be having. Or perhaps the excitement of your lover wanting you so deeply and unexpectedly can help heighten your arousal and pleasure.
With the right position you can also stimulate your own clitoris as your having the quicky and bring yourself to orgasm.
Benefits the Quicky Offers Loving Couples
- For the busy couple it's a fantastic way to keep connected sexually when you don't have time for an entire lovemaking session.
- They can be a great source of fun and adventure that will make you enjoy one another even more.
- When one partner is not in the mood but would like to meet the needs of their partner, quickies are convenient and easy.
- Having a quickie when you have only a short period of time or in places where you risk getting caught adds a lot of excitement that can heighten arousal and intensify climax.
- During summer when it's too hot for those long, savoring, full body contact encounters, quickies provide you with the opportunity to fulfill your sexual desires quickly.
- Men love quickies and women can put a real sparkle in their man's eyes with a quickie surprise.
If you're looking for some other great ways to keep your relationship fresh and exciting, many couples find that the use of erotic emails will work magic. Send your lover an erotic email and invite them for a quicky.
Another way to enjoy a quicky is phone sex with your lover. If you and your lover haven't had time for lovemaking or you've been missing your partner today, give them a call and have a quicky on the phone.
Places to Have Your Quickies
Now that you're ready for a great quicky here's a few ideas of fun places to have them.
- In an elevator on your way to an appointment.
- In the car on your way out you hop on his lap in the front seat or in the back. Or pull over at a roadside rest, or back road.
- At the park on a picnic table your lover sits inconspicuously on the table and you stand in front of him, lift your skirt slightly and lower yourself down over him.
- In the back of a restaurant or club you're out dining or dancing and slip off into a back room, closet or hallway.
- At a movie theater it's probably best to engage in oral sex for this one, but if you're especially bold and adventurous you might try sitting on his lap.
- The bathroom of your favorite restaurant, shopping department or even your own house.
- In an alley you and your lover are walking through on your way to a restaurant or a store.
- At the office on the desk, conference table, chair or against the wall.
- In a dressing room your lover got you all excited trying on a sexy new outfit.
- Pop in on your lover in the shower unexpectedly.
Now men remember, when your woman gives you the pleasure of a quicky be sure to make up for it next time with a long and sensual lovemaking session that satisfies all her desires.
Women you can wear a skirt or dress with no panties to make access easier for quickies.
Another benefit of quickies is they are a great to way to engage in a lot of different sex positions, which can also add more excitement to the encounter.
For example in the elevator can be against the wall, in the car can be the woman on top of your lap or laying down in the back in seat, on the picnic table in the park can be done with the male standing or the female bent over, at the office can be standing against the wall or bent over the desk, in a dressing room could be the female sitting on your lap or standing.
So now that you know regardless of why or where you engage in quickies it's a sure fire way to keep your relationship alive and exciting. Surprise your lover today!