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Five Tips to Combat Loss of Sexual Desire
Temporary loss of sexual desire may occur from time to time in all
relationships.
Major life changes, illness, periods of excess fatigue or stress can
all
put a damper on one’s fire for a period of time, and sometimes the
brief
break can cause you to crave one another again and this will be
beneficial
for the relationship, but if the loss of desire persists indefinitely
and
creates distress for one or both partners then there is a
problem.
Fluctuations in desire are normal and expected, but complete loss of
sexual desire
results in unhappy relationships. If this isn’t addressed, it can
destroy the relationship.
Many women with loss of
sexual desire find the increase your
sex drive eclass to be very helpful.
If you’ve lost your loving feeling try some of these suggestions to
get your motor running again.
1.Create the Mood
Don’t just sit and wait for your desire to appear or the mood to strike
you. You need to create the mood and stimulate desire. There must be a
willingness to work on creating the mood.
2. Make Sex a Priority
With our hectic fast paced society, relationships tend to get pushed
to the side and sex sometimes becomes something that you fit in
whenever
you can. You need to make time for lovemaking. When sex is pushed aside
desire and passion dwindle. The more you engage in sex the more your
desire
will grow.
3. Get Your Needs Met
Unmet needs will lead to feelings of resentment and anger and cause
a loss of desire for your partner. When needs are not met, sex will not
be satisfying and you may unconsciously decide you don’t really like
sex
anymore. Is he meeting your need for foreplay or is he moving
straight
to the genital action? Sometimes women have a loss of sexual desire if
their
lover
is not stimulating them enough or in the manner that’s needed.
Make
sure you share with your lover what it is you need to be aroused.
4. Resolve Conflict
Resentments, hurt feelings, anger, fear etc. can create a lack of
desire.
Sometimes women bury unresolved feelings. Perhaps your partner
did
something months ago that really hurt you and you haven’t been able to
let go. Or perhaps you’ve let many things build up for a long
period
of time. Be honest and open with your partner. If you have
unresolved
feelings then talk to him about it. What happens outside the bedroom
will
impact greatly what happens or doesn’t happen in the bedroom.
5. Rule out Possible
Physiological Causes
Loss of sexual desire can be something physiological such as:
an illness, hormonal imbalances (androgen, testosterone, progesterone,
DHEA) or Thyroid abnormalities. If after some self-reflection and
inner exploration you can’t put your finger on why your desire has
dwindled,
then see a physician who specializes in loss of sexual desire.
You don’t always have to be in the mood to meet your
partner’s needs.
To prevent your lover from feeling rejected or deprived, help him
achieve
orgasm in other ways. Have other forms of sex such as masturbating him
or giving him oral.
Sex does not always have to result in intercourse.
Focus on the
intimacy and enjoying the physical sensations of closeness, love,
sensuality
and touch.
Women frequently have specific reasons for not desiring sex
that they
are unaware of. Loss of sexual desire can occur for many
reasons. It can
be psychological/emotional, hormonal, social/cultural or
physiological.
Or it a may be a combination of several of these factors. It’s very
important
to sort them out and address each issue.
Don’t let your wild woman become lost.
Return from loss of sexual
desire back to love making tips
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