Great Sex Positions
By Great Sex Coach Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed.
Looking for great sex positions is one of the most popular activities among adventurous couples. The search for new and exciting positions seems to be a never ending quest fueled with intrigue and curiosity and for good reason. What position or positions you choose to use can make the difference between great sex and mediocre sex.
Sex positions are very important to many aspects of the sexual experience. They greatly impact what kind of sensations you'll experience, what level of pleasure you can achieve, which type of orgasm you can reach and how intense that orgasm will be, what level of intimacy you'll share, how satisfying the session will be and what degree of fun, excitement or adventure will transpire. A great way to turn an ordinary position into a great sex position is with the use of the wedge pillow.
Some positions are good for tender lovemaking while others are more exciting and adventurous and yet others are great for raw and carnal fucking. What is pleasurable for the male is not always as pleasurable for the female and vice versa. So what constitutes the definition of great sex positions depends on the gender and individual preferences. To learn what's most exciting for your mate you may want to visit the best sex positions for her and him.
Although there's all this interest in finding great sex positions, couples report that they frequently fall into a routine and use the same position over and over. This is a pattern couples need to avoid to keep their sex life fresh and exciting. If you're looking for a great illustrated manual of positions, I highly recommend "Kama Sutra Sexual Positions for Him and Her."
Becoming a master of a variety of great sex positions is one of the finest ways to keep variety and a sense of adventure alive in your sex life. All good lover's use positions skillfully to provoke excitement passion, playfulness and most importantly to keep boredom from setting in. A couple who doesn't get bored with each other is a couple who doesn't have wandering eyes.
Using Great Sex Positions to Have Better Sex?
How you use your positions is just as important as which position you engage in. A skilled lover knows how to move with ease from one position to another at just the right time for each partner. It's as if there is an unspoken language that develops between the lovers that guides them intuitively through a flawless series of satisfying movements.
That old saying "practice makes perfect" needs put into effect here. One cannot become an accomplished positioneer by reading books or looking at pictures alone. Yes they are great educational aids as well as stimulating, but they must be into action for the deep learning to be achieved.
Knowing how to go with the flow of positions is largely dependent upon learning to read cues of your lover and knowing yourself. It requires being fully present in the moment and in sync with your partner.
When deciding which sex position to use you want to take into account factors such as your level of health, body structure, flexibility, age, body size and how much time you have available. Don't be afraid to go outside your comfort zone and experiment, but also be respectful of any boundaries or limits you may have.
Another crucial element is to ask yourself,"what is it you'd like to achieve" for this particular sexual adventure?
Would you like to make love or are in you in the mood for a good fuck? And yes, loving passionate couples do and should be fucking once in a while. By fucking I mean, that raw, down and dirty, carnal, level that fulfills our wildest animalistic desires.
Would you like to pleasure her or him more, is she wanting a g spot orgasm, a clitoral orgasm or both? Are you in the mood to let loose and thrust like a wild animal or take your time and smell the roses? Do you want to rub and stroke against her or do you want the deepest penetration possible? Is it going to be a quickie or an all nighter?
Depending on how you answer these questions will determine what great sex positions to use and when. Different sex positions stimulate different parts of the vagina for the woman and produce a variety of different pleasurable sensations for both partners.
Some sex positions like the doggie style can stimulate her g spot, while the proper angle when the woman is on top, or a modified missionary will stimulate the clitoris and the g spot together. If the man is looking for deep penetration then doggie style is the one for the job.
If you're wanting to make tender passionate love and savor intimacy you're not going to be engaging in doggie style; for this the standard missionary is the best choice for the goal.
If you're in a rough or wild mood your not going to be engaging in missionary; something like doggie style is called for.
If you'd like a little of both, then you could start out in the missionary position and then switch to woman on top and then a little doggie style.
For a quickie, standing up against the wall or bending her over a chair are good choices.
You can also achieve different goals and levels of pleasure by changing your pace and angle of thrust.
The man's erection can be prolonged by changing positions. If you're approaching the "point of no return" then slow down your pace and thrust, then switch into another position that doesn't allow deep penetration. Rub and rock gently to maintain your erection, once the urge to climax passes, then resume more active thrusting as desired.
It's important for couples to keep in mind that although excelling with great sex positions is an important component for a satisfying sex life, it's only one of many ingredients. There are many other aspects just as significant for having great sex and you can learn how to incorporate them into your relationship by checking out "The Lovemaking Smorgasbord A Couples Menu for Feeding Passion & Fidelity."
Great Sex Positions to Try
What's Your Favorite Sex Position and Why?
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Free to Fly with Doggie Style Position
Contrary to a lot of women, one of my favorite sexual positions is rear entry, or doggie style position. I'm sure it's a rarity for a woman to list doggie ...
There really is no comparison to lap sex. To have your girl positioned right in front of you and to have her arms wrapped around your neck as her fingers ...
I'm a guy and all my friends pick on me for liking missionary sex, but what can I say, that's it for me. Most of my friends tell me they like doggie style ...
Subscribers Favorite Sex Positions
I ran a contest for subscribers to my newsletter asking them to submit their opinion on their favorite sex positions and these were the results.
When experimenting and searching for great sex positions try not to get too focused on achieving orgasm as this will hinder the discovery process. Being together, having fun and experiencing some new adventures and sensations can be just as enjoyable. Be adventurous and create some new positions of your own. You might surprise yourself with what you can come up with and the pleasure you can achieve.