Sex Standing Up
By Great Sex Coach Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed.
Looking for a different love making position? Well you don't have to look too far to find the many pleasures that can be enjoyed while have sex standing up.
The convenience of not needing a surface to lie down on makes for easy access to sex in places and times that wouldn't otherwise be possible.
Standing up while making love is wrapped in a cloak of naughtiness as if engaging in something forbidden, which only adds even more excitement to the situation.
It encourages spontaneous unplanned sex which is great for all relationships. Whisk your partner away unexpectedly in a private corridor or ambush them as they enter the door from work.
Standing up sex works best if both partners are close to the same height. He bends his knees and lowers himself and then rises up to enter her. Alternatively she can slide down over him.
If you and your partner are not of the same height, you can try it on the stairway or use a footstool to put the shorter person on the step above the other. You want to get eye to eye and align the genitals.
What makes this different love making position so appealing is that it combines the intimacy factor with the wild and daring side. When having sex standing up, you have the face to face, eye to eye interaction and the full body contact that promotes intimacy. It allows for and even calls out for deep passionate kissing and caressing. Combine all this with the risque physical element and you have a different love making position guaranteed to give both partners a highly exciting and pleasurable adventure.
Different Approaches to Sex Standing Up Position
- There is something very exciting in being taken against the wall. The one being taken can feel as if their desirable and irresistible and the one doing the taking can be aroused in the feeling of power. The male or the female can be the aggressor.
- The male can cradle his woman in his arms, her legs around his waist and her arms around his neck. If you're real adventurous you can take this a bit further and position the woman so her feet can go against the wall and she pushes against it with the bottoms of her feet to rock back and forth on you, or put her back against a wall.
- The woman can wear a skirt with no panties to make for easy access and then entice her lover. When he realizes she has no panties on, his excitement will be uncontrollable.
- Hold your partners hands above their head and against the wall, as if capturing them, for a little added excitement.
- She can lean back slightly so his pelvic bone can stimulate her clitoris as he thrusts.
- When she is against the wall, he can lift one of her legs up over his arm for access and nail her to the wall. This allows for deeper penetration.
- She can stand against wall, spread her legs open wide in a V and he can enter.
- He can lean against the wall and she can slide down over him. She can lift her leg up for a different sensation.
- Turn her around with her hands the against wall, her buttocks pushed out, legs spread open and he enters from behind.
- The standing up position is notoriously known for being great for a quickie and with good reason.
Some Disadvantages of Standing Up Sex
Standing up when having sex has a few disadvantages:
- He needs to be strong enough to pick her up and hold her.
- Most people can't sustain this position for a long period of time.
- Many people tire easily.
- Insertion can be difficult.
- You need to get aligned properly.
Because of these limitations not all couples may be able to achieve this exciting position. But, even if some of these constraints are a factor for you, there are still several ways you can enjoy the thrills of this having sex standing up. Being taken against the wall does not have to include penetration with the penis. You can still enjoy the enhanced arousal and stimulation just by leaning against one another, kissing, caressing one another, fondling one another. You can use it as a form of foreplay or you can reach under her skirt and pleasure her manually with your fingers, or reach in his pants and stroke him to satisfaction.
Don't be afraid to try new things even if they feel awkward or unattainable at first. Maybe you won't achieve the goal you aimed for, but perhaps you'll find another different love making position or some other way of doing it that is just as satisfying and at the very least you can have a lot of fun trying. Sex should be playful as well as pleasurable and standing up sex is an easy way to achieve both.