Great Sex Techniques to Dazzle Your Lover
and Increase Your Pleasure
By Great Sex Coach Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed.
Becoming the master of a variety of great sex techniques should be a goal of all good lovers who desire to give and receive great sex.
It's extremely important for sexual satisfaction of both partners. If you don't know what you're doing or fumbling around in the dark, you're not likely to have the pleasurable experience you desire.
For some, sexual technique just comes naturally, while for others it's something they have to work at. Either way, the more you practice, the better you become.
Unfortunately techniques for good sex are not something that we are usually taught. For most people it is the learn on your own as you go program. However, a better way is to educate yourself about some of the best techniques through adult sex videos, books or sex guides.
Now although it's most beneficial to master as many different great sex techniques as you can, there are a few important points to keep in mind.
Men and women have very different sexual needs. A good lover will learn these differences and then focus on the sexual techniques that will be most pleasurable for themselves and their partner. Don't just learn techniques that interest you, target the ones that will provide your lover with the most sexual bliss.
To learn more about these differences between men and women and discover the techniques that will dazzle your lover and bring you the most pleasure, you can find hundreds of tip, techniques and secrets in The Lovemaking Smorgasbord - A Couple's Guide for Feeding Passion Fidelity.
Each persons body is anatomically unique in some way. Not each couple will align up the same way. So what works for one couple, may not work for another. What brought you and your last partner ecstatic pleasure, may or not be the same as what works with a new lover.
Every individual has unique preferences, desires, and pleasure zones. You may have to be positioned in a slightly different place or angle. One person may find a specific technique extremely stimulating, while another person may find it to be a total turn off. Any time you learn a new technique for sex, once you learn the basics, you'll want to tweak it according to your partners needs.
Communication is of the utmost importance for perfecting your great sex techniques. Each person must know their own desires, preferences and needs and be willing and able to share them with the other. Be sure to ask your partner if the technique is working for them or if it needs improvement. Make adjustments as needed. If it's working great, be sure to share that with your partner as well because all lovers want to praised for their efforts and it will enhance arousal for both of you. Each partner must be willing and able to listen, be completely honest and be open to change, grow and learn.
It's also important to keep in mind that no matter how many sexual techniques you excel at that they alone are not going to guarantee that you have great sex. There are many other factors involved that can either enhance or detract from your sexual experience.
How pleasurable your sexual technique will be for you and your partner is highly dependent on the emotional connection you share, the level of respect that is showed to one another, intimacy, the quality of your relationship, how you interact and resolve conflict, consideration of one another, the chemistry you share and the sensitivity to your partners needs and feelings you exhibit.
You can have the greatest sex techniques in the world, but if you don't have the right connection with your lover it won't be anything special.
Developing and maintaining a well balanced relationship is the most excellent action you can take to ensure that your sex techniques will deliver the most powerful effect possible. Have fun together, share feelings, listen to one another, deepen intimacy and then whatever technique you use will be a winner.
One of the best ways to learn new sex techniques is to always remain open to adventure and exploration with your partner. It takes a certain degree of trial and error to develop and refine technique. Have fun and play with experimentation. Don't strive for perfection, just enjoy the journey.
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A Sex Technique for Him and Her
Now even though I said that men and women have different needs there are some great sex techniques that are somewhat universal. Here's an extremely easy sexual technique that requires no fancy physical maneuvering or props that will light the fire of both males and females.
You can, of course, always add your own secret touch to it and make it uniquely your own.
Whispering is one of those rare sex techniques that can be used for both sexual enhancement and getting your needs met. The act itself incites arousal and the words you choose to use can achieve a variety of different goals.
For instance, if you're in the mood for oral sex tonight, while your lover is cooking supper or you're eating dinner together, or your even out shopping, lean in and brush your lips against their eat and whisper oh so sensuously how you would like to lay them down and devour them this evening.
Both men and women alike usually feel it's incredibly sexy when their lover whispers softly in their ear. While your there, be sure to brush your lips against their ear or nibble on it a little. A little caress or brush against the thigh can enhance it even more.
Whispering works so well for everyone because it offers so many different benefits and it can be catered specifically to each person's particular preferences.
If you're lover is somewhat reserved, you can keep your words sweet and sensuous. On the other hand, if their a little more hard core then you can seduce them with the down and dirty.
It can be used as foreplay or to seduce and build anticipation, arousal and desire. It's a great way to communicate your sexual needs and feelings. Whisper how hot you are between your legs, or how hard. Tell your partner what you'd really like them to do you tonight, or let them know what you're going to do them. Don't just stick with the physical aspects, but include the emotional as well, by telling them they how you feel about them.
Whispering is one of the easiest great sex techniques there is and it's an incredibly powerful way to really get the sparks flying for both partners.