Spooning Sex Position Creates More Intimacy
By Great Sex Coach Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed.
Spooning sex position makes the list of best love making positions because of the amount of intimacy it creates. It gets its name because your bodies come together in a way that mimics the way spoons fit together in the drawer.
True lovemaking is not only about sexual pleasure but also connecting emotionally. This position ranks right up there with the missionary position in it's ability to promote intimacy and emotional connection.
To achieve this position the receiver lies on their side with their partner lying behind them on their side and penetration is achieved from behind.
Spooning position is meant to be a gentle, low stress position with slow rhythmic motions where you take your time, savor, meander and enjoy your lover.
The Many Benefits of Spooning Sex Position
- One of the greatest aspects of this position is that it allows for lots of cuddling and caressing. It's great for roaming fingers and lips. You can hug her, whisper loving or naughty tidbits in her ear, rub her breasts, caress the outline of her body, or kiss, lick and nibble on her neck and shoulders.
- Combine some of the aforementioned activities with the inherent nature of this position and you have a position that makes your woman feel like you're being affectionate. She can be the center of attention and feel important, valued and loved, which are very important components for a woman to enjoy sex thoroughly.
- Because of the slow pace and depth of penetration this position keeps him from climaxing too fast.
- It offers easy access for the giver to reach around and stimulate their partner's breasts or clitoris.
- You can position yourselves so you can stimulate her g spot with penetration.
- He can lean back and position the woman's legs so he can watch himself thrusting in and out of her which is a real turn on for most men.
- The receiver can stimulate her own clitoris with her hands or vibrator if she so desires.
- She can twist her upper body just a bit so that she can look back at her lover while he penetrates her and the couple can engage in some sensuous kissing.
Variations to the Spooning Position
- She can turn her body a bit so that her legs go over his.
- The women can raise her leg and allow deeper penetration. With the leg down it makes a tighter fit. With the leg up it's a looser fit. You can also get deeper penetration by having the woman push her buttocks back further towards him.
- The man can wrap his legs around the woman.
- If you like anal sex or would like to experiment with anal sex, spooning sex position is a great way to gently explore. All benefits still apply just enter the anus instead of the vagina. Be sure to lube up and make sure your partner is a ready and willing participant.
- The spooning sex position can be the whole lovemaking event or it can be the position you begin in and then move on to something else or it can be used to slow things down and extend the lovemaking session.
Any of the above variations adjust tightness and angle of penetration and offer the couple a variety of pleasurable sensations for both partners.
It's very easy after engaging in this position for awhile to then just roll her over on her stomach and lie on her back. She can stay flat or lift her buttocks up in the air by getting up on her knees. You can also roll her over on her back and gracefully slide into the missionary position.
Or she can roll over and face you side by side. When facing each other the woman can put her leg over her lovers, she can position it up higher over his thigh or he can lift his leg over hers offering more variety of sensations for each partner. With his leg over hers, he can lean in towards her body and she can press close to him and stimulate her g spot on the base of his penis. If you're facing one another it provides a good opportunity for some tender, passionate kissing.
During some heavy duty bed rocking and the male is about to climax, but would like to hold off, you can use spooning to slow things down and prolong his erection. After a period of gentle low-impact lovemaking his urge to climax will pass and then you can resume some faster high-impact thrusting or whatever pace you desire.
If you've had an argument and want a quick way to heal the wounds and remove the negative energy there is no better way than spooning.
Spooning sex is a great position to use at night just before going to sleep. After a session of tender relaxing lovemaking you can then fall asleep still wrapped in the spoon position.
Sleeping together in the spooning sex position feeds intimacy and promotes harmony in the relationship. Or what better way to wake up than to roll over and start your day with a little spoon lovemaking first thing in the morning.