Ways to Say I Love You and
Why It's Important to Your Sex Life
By Great Sex Coach Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed.
Learning a variety of ways to say I love you and actually putting them into action on a regular basis is one of the most beneficial steps you can possibly take to not only enhance your sex life, but to strengthen your entire relationship as well.
We've all heard that old cliche that "love blossoms" and that's very true, however, just like a beautiful blossom in nature, that love will dry up and perish if it doesn't receive the nourishment it needs. Just like a baby flower bud in the springtime needs sun and water to grow into the strong and beautiful flower it is meant to be, love needs adequate care and attention to flourish and withstand the test of time.
When your love is new and fresh, then sex is exciting and passionate without a lot of effort, partly because of chemistry and novelty, but also partly because in the early stages of a relationship couples are working hard to win the heart of their lover. Feelings of love and affection are expressed and exhibited more frequently and with less restriction.
However, once the heart of their lover is won, couples forget that they must continue maintenance in order to keep this love alive. Over time the expression of feelings becomes less frequent and lovers begin to take each other for granted. Many couples also wrestle with the ability to express their emotions. They struggle to find ways to say I love You. Being affectionate, thoughtful and attentive and the expression of love needs to continue throughout the entire course of the relationship. Partners need frequent reassurance.
When love isn't expressed, then self doubt and doubt about the relationship occurs, intimacy deteriorates, space grows between you and your lover, your bonds weaken and the relationship become vulnerable to temptations and destructive forces of life. The longer this pattern continues the more deterioration that occurs.
It's impossible to have a good sex life under these conditions. Passion, desire and arousal will be inhibited or dwindle in response to the quality of the relationship.
Couples are often puzzled when their relationship falls apart or they find themselves going through the motions of a relationship that is no longer exciting, satisfying or passionate. What's really sad about this scenario is that it often is not the absence of love that brings a relationship to an end, it is the lack of expressing this love that leads to the demise.
By simply developing an assortment of ways to say I love you and express affection and making it a priority in your life, you can protect your love, keep it flourishing forever and build a strong long lasting relationship that is blooming with passion, happiness and contentment.
Now if you've neglected your relationship over the years, the good news is that it is never too late to begin again. That little love bud is still in their somewhere and if you give it just a little care and feeding it will bloom again into a beautiful thriving blossom.
There are many, many ways to say I love you and now is the perfect time to get started and devote yourself to this important cause.
If you need a little help in coming up with ideas, you can find lots of inspiration in this great little Ebook, "99 Inexpensive Ways to Say I Love You."
You'll find everything you need to make your lover feel special and important and know without a doubt that they are loved, which ultimately will lead you to a happier and more pleasurable sex life and relationship.